7 Tips on How to Gain the Confidence to Travel Solo (Bye, Flaky Friends!)

by Gabby Beckford
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What are some things to know before you take your first solo trip? What is solo female travel? What tools and products should solo women get to stay safe traveling in 2022? How can women gain the confidence to travel solo?

Many find the idea of solo travel overwhelming, uncomfortable, unsafe, and at least unfamiliar. And while there are a lot of logistical considerations to solo travel, I personally think the biggest battle is having the confidence to press that button and book the ticket to go.

Here are my best tips for gaining the confidence to travel alone. Make sure you read 'til the end for recommendations on the safest destinations to travel for solo women!

1. Women, arm yourself with information!

I once heard a quote that's rung true to me in so many aspects of life: “Anxiety is just an itch for more information”

In solo travel, you may be obsessing over the “what-ifs”: what if you get lost? what if you hate being alone? what if you get robbed? what if the worst happens? etc.

But we can't live our lives in what-ifs. What if you regret traveling solo? But, what if you love it? You never know if you like anything or not until you do it.

By doing your research via personal stories from friends, on travel blogs, Facebook travel groups, Reddit threads, and many other resources, there will be fewer unknowns and therefore less anxiety. Hearing that other everyday women have traveled to these locations solo and survived, even thrived, will make you more confident to go too.

Advice for the woman who wants to travel solo: if we wait for people to come with us, we’ll never go. Take these tips, pack your bags, and GO!
Advice for the woman who wants to travel solo: if we wait for people to come with us, we’ll never go. Take these tips, pack your bags, and GO!

The following are some statistics to help ease your fears as well:

  • In the past 3 years, Google searches for advice for solo travel have risen by 40%. This means that more people are traveling solo and it's safe and enjoyable enough that the trend is generally increasing.
  • A 2014 solo female travel study showed that 72% of American women polled have traveled solo before, and 34% would do it again.
  • I am a 26-year-old, 5'3″ Black woman who travels solo, and by being cautious and doing my research I've never had any dire safety instances in solo travel to more than 20 countries(source… me!)

Okay, that last one is not a real statistic but I hope I'm still a valid source! If I and other everyday women have traveled solo it and loved it, you owe it to yourself to try it.

2. Travel locally at first.

You don't have to travel 10,000 miles to find adventure. If you want to go on a solo trip, don't feel pressured by social media to fly straight to the opposite end of the world.

Try a staycation in your country, state, or even town.

With luxury accommodation options on Airbnb, and Groupon experiences available, you can make a weekend in town feel like a weekend abroad very affordably, and sites like Urban Outdoors can help you find adventure in your own backyard!

Or just do a day trip and explore your own city by yourself!

Make a local bucket list

I did a local bucket list for Washington D.C., feel free to steal ideas. Here are some ideas to get your bucket list started:

  • Free museums in the area
  • Restaurants you've always wanted to try (sit at the bar with a book, notepad, or your phoee)
  • Festivals and public events: look on sites like Meetup.com and local Facebook events)
  • Free walking tours
  • Airbnb activities
  • Groupon activities
  • Look up a city on Instagram and go take awesome photos where the most popular pics are
  • Play the Anywhere Travel Guide game in different nearby cities
Solo travel as a woman is equal parts liberating and terrifying. But go anyway! Click To Tweet

3. Plan ahead and know these safety tips.

Our article, 50+ Essential Solo Female Travel Tips is the best resource on the internet—but we'll give you some summary tips below, too.

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Planning ahead will not only give you peace of mind but actually keep you safe. Common things like registering your trip with the STEP Program, sharing your travel itinerary and documents with a close family member and friend, and looking up recent news events in the place you're traveling to can keep you safe.

Some of my favorite travel safety products as a solo woman include a door stopper alarm, RFID protecting passport wallet, and an RFID protecting fanny pack.

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Also, become familiar with security features in apps like Uber and Lyft. Uber now has an emergency feature where you can contact the police or a family member discretely while still in the Uber. =

Consider downloading any of these 16 emergency apps, just in case!

Deterring men

God. I truly hate the world we live in that we even have to give other women advice like this, yet here we are. Men, do better.

Never accept a drink from a person you don't know

Or if you do make sure you’re watching it be made. Even bar staff have been known to drug women. When in doubt, throw it out.

Wearing a fake wedding ring

Grab any type of cheap ring from a garage sale or consignment shop and place it on the 2nd finger on your left hand. It can deter some men from thinking you’re available—though not all men are astute enough to notice or respectful enough to care.

What to do when people ask too many questions when you're traveling solo:

Never tell anyone exactly where you're staying. Give a general area, neighborhood, or street. If you call an Uber use the address of a nearby store or landmark. Always, always double-check the Uber driver's name and license plate before getting inside.

When in doubt or if you’re in an uncomfortable situation: lie. Tell people who ask that you’re here with your family, that your husband is waiting at the hotel, that you just got diagnosed with Hep C, it doesn’t matter.

It’s worth a lie and an awkward apology later rather than being stuck in an uncomfortable or dangerous situation.

Protecting your identity/personal information

One of my favorite tips: get a Google Voice number. You choose a custom number so you can set the area code to wherever you like.

Phone calls and texts can be routed to appear on your phone like normal (or you can choose to communicate only through the Google Voice app), but any texts or calls you make show up as the Google number.

I give this Google number out to anyone on my travels so they can reverse search me if I decide they’re a creep. I also use this for Tinder dates, but I digress.

4. Get a quality travel insurance policy.

Having the right travel insurance should take away any of your fears about losing your bag, missing your flight, breaking your arm, or most other travel logistical fails. A simple insurance policy of $20 yearly could save you thousands of dollars in inconveniences and damages.

My travel insurance? Safety Wing. I pay $40/month as I go, whenever I need it, and love it.

I also get travel insurance through my Chase Sapphire Reserve and Chase Sapphire Ink credit cards.

Having travel insurance can help soothe your solo travel worries because if the worst case were to happen—your bag was stolen, passport got washed, credit cards swiped, bags get sent to Columbia instead of Colombia—you will eventually get every single penny back!

5. Pick the accommodation that’s best for you as a solo traveler.

Many people may suggest for solo women to stay in hostels or Couchsurfing accommodations.

Before you jump into anything I suggest you think about 1.) what type of trip you're looking to have, and 2.) what type of traveler you are.

When to book a hostel when you're traveling solo:

If you are:

  • An extrovert
  • If you're looking to do a few group activities each day
  • If you'd feel more comfortable around people for your first few nights
  • If you have no itinerary and want an easy pool of people to ask for advice
  • Like hustle, bustle, and commotion
  • Don't have many valuables in your bag
  • If you're on a tight budget

then I would suggest a hostel stay, or a Couchsurfing arrangement (Tip: I only stay with women hosts, #SorryNotSorry).

These options are financially friendly and keep you in relatively close quarters with other travelers you could befriend if you choose to.

When to book a hotel or Airbnb when you're traveling solo:

On the other hand, if you desire:

  • A private space to call your own
  • Quiet nights
  • You travel with valuable items like laptops, DSLR cameras, more media tech
  • You're an introvert and need a private space to escape to after a day of travel
  • You want a quiet, relaxing vacation
  • You have dietary restrictions and need a private kitchen

Then I would suggest the entire apartment/house option on Airbnb (or similar sites like Booking.com or VRBO) or a proper hotel room.

The best perk of solo travel is the opportunity to be completely selfish. Do not listen to anyone in their suggestions on where/how you should choose your accommodations. Do what makes you comfortable and will make your trip the most enjoyable.

6. Join Facebook Groups and meet up with people so you aren't truly solo (if you don’t want to be!).

Facebook groups like my Young Travelers Network or the hundreds of other travel groups like those here can be an invaluable resource.

Before I travel solo I’ll post in a few Facebook groups and ask if anyone has local tips for a solo traveler visiting there. Often they’ll give me incredible first-hand advice that I can rely on, and more often than not they’ll invite me to hang out or even offer to host me!

Again, I only meet up with fellow women. But I’ve met up with a lot of them and have so far only had amazing memories.

In this way, you can travel solo and be alone as much as you like, but you also have the option to hang with a friend or a group too.

Airbnb Experiences, MeetUps, Couch Surfing events, and Facebook Events, are also easy ways to meet people when you travel solo. Or rock the old-fashioned way and strike up a conversation at a bar or in your hostel common room.

Solo travel does NOT have to be solo. Make friends on the way! Click To Tweet

7. Vent! Let out your emotions.

While solo travel is liberating, reflective, and exciting, the other side of the solo travel coin can be overwhelming, anxiety-riddling, tiring, and lonely—especially the first few trips.

I can’t encourage you enough to find a way to let all of these feelings out. Journal, vlog, call a friend, call your mom, or chat with other solo travelers about what you’re feeling. Just talking about it will help you process those wiley emotions, and some may even offer some great advice.

But when you’re traveling solo, the voice in your head is your ever-present companion. It can be a joy to learn more about yourself by being in your own company, but it can also make you go crazy. Let it out!

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BONUS TIP: Have fun! And sharing is caring.

Seriously, have a good time!

Do the things you wanna do, when you wanna do them, in whatever outfit you want. Eat local cuisine for every meal, or try McDonald's in every country. Fake a British accent in Hawaii.

Go to the frog museum your frog-hating boyfriend said he would never go to. Sleep in until noon. Explore the city at 5 AM and watch the sunrise.

This is the beauty of traveling solo is that you can do whatever you want.

And I personally encourage you to share at least a little bit of your journey online, whether that’s a blog, vlog, Instagram post, or Tweet. Show those at home that you can do bad all by yourself, and maybe even inspire another woman to give it a go herself.

If you're looking to become a full-time travel influencer like me join my

If you wait for friends, family, your boyfriend, your husband, your girlfriend from work to travel with you… you’ll never go.

Stop making the things you want from your life conditional on other people. Grab your coat, leave a note, pack light, and go!

Where is your first solo trip to? How are you feeling about it after this article? Pin the article to save these tips, and let’s chat in the comments.

What are the best USA cities for solo female travel in 2022?

Santa Barbara, CA; Chattanooga, TN; Crystal City, VA; Savannah, GA; and Leavenworth, WA are all great first solo trip options.

What countries are safe for solo traveling women?

In my experience: Cyprus, the UAE, Iceland, Croatia, Jordan, Oman, and New Zealand, are generally safe places for women.

Is solo female travel safe?

The sad truth is, that women are inherently not safe. It doesn't matter if we're in groups, and we are in our homes, what we wear, where we are, or what we do. We have to have the same level of vigilance, precautions, and street smarts everywhere. There are definitely some places that have stricter limitations on women's freedom, and some destinations that are less safe in general. But there are also places that are safer than your town community is more dedicated to keeping women safe! I do your research and go anyway. Women, you deserve to see the world.

Gabby Beckford

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Kait January 27, 2022 - 1:10 PM

Nicaragua! I am so nervous but so excited. I definitely feel better after reading this


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