How You Can Get Upgraded on Almost EVERY Flight (Do NOT Ask the Flight Attendant!)

by Gabby Beckford
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As an avid traveler and travel blogger, I am always in the air. This year alone I've been on 22 flights—2 international, the rest domestic.

Out of those 22 flights, I was upgraded on 7. That's almost 1/3! Not bad.

Extended leg room, window seats, empty rows to myself, exit rows, and bulkhead rows all allowed for a more comfortable flying experience on my 2 to 6-hour flights.

Being upgraded on a flight to me means any seat that is better than the one I was assigned. Rarely if not ever do I pay for a seat in a better section of the plane, let alone a window seat.

Honestly, if it were free I would just lay in the overhead compartment.

I think it's important to have an attitude of gratitude when reading this article, and that is my Tip #1. We should be grateful that we have the privilege of leisure travel at all, and not take it negatively if/when we're unable to be upgraded. I'm truly happy to just be on the plane.

…But, yes, I would be happier in seat 4A, in First Class, with a window seat 🙂 So here are my tips to getting bumped-up last-minute, as often as possible:

Airplane Seat First Class


Essentially you want this flight to be underbooked. Extra seats mean more opportunities to be moved around or bumped up.

If there are multiple flights a day, try to choose the one that you think the least amount of people will be flying. If your flight days are flexible, book the day that will be least likely to fly.

I would give you specific advice such as trying to fly in the middle of the week and very early or very late in the day, but it only depends on the time of year and the specific dates you fly.

Example: if you’re going to try to get bumped up on Christmas Day, it will be very unlikely. (Well, actually, it’s possible you could be super lucky and they could bump you up because it’s Christmas.) But the chances of you being bumped up because there are empty seats, are slim.

It’s subjective. If you think everyone is going to fly back from holiday on a Sunday, try to come back that Saturday or Monday. If you think everyone will be trying to catch a certain flight to make some event, head out on an earlier one. Plan ahead!


Even if you don't fly them often enough to reach Gold Member status, any sign of affiliation and customer loyalty will give you a slightly higher priority in a company's mind.

Plus they're free to join, so why not sign up for as many as possible anyway?

I'm part of many airlines' frequent flyer programs, but I almost always try to fly Delta Airlines or United Airlines. Because of that, I now have status on both airlines.

What is “status”?

Basically, being a member of an airlines loyalty program or frequent flyer program. They're FREE to sign up with, and if you fly an airline or airline alliance often enough you rack up points and miles.

By doing that (or just paying for it) you'll reach a status level with that airline.

From lowest level to highest, they're usually named something like Silver, Gold, and Platinum Memberships.

How to choose a favorite airline to achieve “status” on:

Check these questions:

  • Is there an airline hub at an airport near you? Ex. Living in Virginia, Dulle Airport (IAD) was a United hub which meant there were frequent flights, many routes, at a good price. Now living in Seattle, Alaska Airlines has a hub at Seattle Intenational Airport!
  • Do you fly internationally often? If yes, look at airlines like Delta Airlines, United Airlines, Jet Blue, etc. to favor. If not, you may be happy trying for status with Frontier Airlines or Breeze Airlines.
  • What airline alliance do you favor? I like StarAlliance best. Swiss Airlines, United Airlines, AirCanada, Lufthansa, ANA, etc. are all apart of it, and are all airlines I can see myself flying. Delta Airlins is a part of SkyTeam, along with AeroMexico, AirFrance, and KLM.

Both Delta Airlines and United Airlines are my favorite because they have extended the status level of members for 3 years through the pandemic, and both have status matching programs.

For example, if I have Gold Status on Delta, United would match that status and make me Gold on their membership program as well, for 3 months.

All that to say, there are many benefits of becoming part of airlines frequent flyer programs. One of them, is the initiative of the airline to assist you… like when you are looking for a last-minute upgrade on a flight 😉

Tip No. 3: Get to your gate 1-1.5 hours early. Click To Tweet


After you’ve done as much finessing as possible when booking, make sure you get to your gate 1 – 1.5 hours early.

Yes, I have TSA Precheck and Global Entry so I could arrive at the airport 10 minutes before boarding if I wanted and still make my flight. But if you want to be upgraded, get there around 1 hour before boarding. Much earlier and the gate agents won’t be servicing your flight yet.

Any later and other people will have taken all of the good seats already!

People get to the gate check early all the time to ask if they can have their seats changed to have their family seated together, or because when they booked online the only choice left was a window but they’re deathly afraid of flying and would prefer an aisle, etc.

You will be approaching hoping for a similar favor.


If you have a birthday, anniversary, just accepted a new job, just divorced your sh*tty husband, are moving to a very new place, etc. use this.

Example: If it's your birthday within the last/next 2 weeks, wear an “It's my Birthday!” pin and say your mom or friends made you wear it.

Bringing these things to people's attention turns you from seat 24B into a living, breathing, human being, and they're more likely to empathize and want to help you if they can. The shirt I've linked below is a super subtle way you could go about it.

How to Get Upgraded On Your Flight
Bumped to an exit row on my flight from Puerto Rico to D.C.


I love traveling solo. There are a lot of reasons that I travel solo—the independence, freedom, the opportunity to move at my own pace—but one of being that it's just easier to navigate solo!

Easier to find a table for one last minute at a restaurant, easier to find a seat for one at the movies—and easier to upgrade a party of 1 on a flight!

A pair of premium or first-class seats are likely to be sold. But one lone seat? Could be the perfect opportunity for you!


So you’ve arrived at the gate 1-1.5 hours early. Now walk up to the gate agent and follow this script:

You: “Good morning/Good Afternoon/Hello, how are you?”

How you greet them sets the tone of the conversation. Smile and look like you have a teensy-weensy favor to ask them because you do.

You: “I was just wondering if this was a full flight? I’m __________________ (in a middle seat/a little close to the bathroom/a little far back) and I just wanted to see if there was anything else available. I’m ______________ (by myself/it’s my anniversary and I’m flying to meet my significant other/it’s my birthday).”

Don't play coy, and let them know immediately that you're talking to them because you want to move seats. You either can or you can't, there's no reason to beat around the bush. But, following up with some specific and somewhat-credible reasons that you're asking could help your case. If it really is your anniversary/birthday even better, humans are generally good and if they can help you they usually try to.

This is where they would check the seating chart. While they're checking I try to throw in a little compliment about the gate agent's earrings if they're a girl, or their tie if they're a guy. They may know my game, but flattery really does get you everywhere, even subconsciously.

If you booked a less popular flight as suggested hopefully there is a better seat available further up in the plane—maybe even in Premium economy or First Class if you're really lucky. Huzzah!

But there is a chance they may try and brush you off by not checking and just telling you the flight is full, or 

You: “Do you mind just checking? It’s worth a shot” OR “Ah, well thank you. We still have some time, can I come back and check closer to boarding in case someone is a no-show?”

You can try again a bit closer to boarding and maybe you'll have luck. I've also had gate agents go out of their way to call me back up to the desk when they find out someone will be a no-show.

I never lie about these things though. Ever. All it takes is a few people to be caught in pointless white lies for travel industry employees to become jaded and stop going out of their way for people.


I don't mean being entitled and irritating about it. But don't be afraid to let a flight attendant know!

This is the most common way I'm upgraded actually. The audio or display on my entertainment won't work, my seatbelt might be torn, my seat won't recline, or some other malfunction.

I will politely let a flight attendant know about the issue, and often if space permits or it's an extremely long flight where something like broken entertainment would be a huge inconvenience, they will often move you and upgrade you as a bonus for the inconvenience.

A broken entertainment system + kind FA + not-full flight is the perfect storm for a last-minute upgrade.

First Class July 2018 British Airways
Flight from LHR⇀JFK + broken TV = First Class! 😍 as seen on Facebook


This is your Hail Mary. The gate agents couldn't help you, so you're boarding the plane and heading to your somewhat lame assigned seat.

If you're walking and it looks like there might be a few extra seats or the flight isn't completely full. After you sit down and they announce that they have finished boarding (not before!), ping a flight attendant and ask if you might move up to a better seat if it's available. This would also be the time to mention it's your birthday, anniversary, etc.

Too broke to book business but hoping for a Hail Mary? Here's how you can get upgraded last-minute on your next flight. Click To Tweet

If you have an authentic need to be moved: i.e. you get motion sick/are terrified of flying, you have a UTI and need to go to the bathroom a lot, you have super long Naomi Campbell legs, you have an extremely short layover (like 30 mins) and it would help to be further up in the plane to deboard quicker, then you have every right to let them know you'd prefer to be moved.

If the flight looks completely full, you're SOL. Remember: if you really wanted to be upgraded you could have paid for Premium or Business Class.

It's a privilege to be traveling at all, and your seat may not be ideal but at least you're on your way to a new adventure!


Do not just jump up and move to an open seat or try to secretly sit in Business Class because a seat is just because it's open. Especially if boarding isn't finished yet.

When people are boarding the flight the attendants are busy making sure everyone is safe, helping people stow their luggage, directly losing passengers to their seats, etc., and it's a huge headache when people start playing musical chairs and switching seats without notifying them.

Do not beg and plead to be moved unless it’s a last-minute emergency or unless you’re in an exit row and suddenly decide you don’t want to be.

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Some airlines simply have policies against free upgrades. You'll have to be a frequent flyer or just pay to be upgraded to Business or First class. This is the case with United Airlines. However, that doesn't mean you can't be moved from a middle seat near the bathrooms to a window seat further up in the plane.

It's good to know airline policies so you know your chances, but I always say closed mouths don't get fed. Why not just ask anyway? If there's an exception to every rule, it might just be you.


I've gotten the following feedback from flight attendants, gate agents, and travel industry workers:

That's all I got! Best of luck, happy travels, and cheers to kind travel industry workers! 🥂

*This article is full of my own arbitrary, subjective opinions and advice. In no way am I advising anyone to break the law, lie, or manipulate their way into a free upgrade. It's not that serious

Want some other broke-but-boujee travel tips? Check out this article: Luxury Travel For Less: How to Take Budget Vacations with VIP Vibes

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What do you think? Do you work in the travel industry and have any more tips? Or have you had a last-minute upgrade for any other reason?

⇟ Let me know in the comments! ⇟

Gabby Beckford

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C July 9, 2022 - 4:20 AM

How does one respond when they say “yes, we have a seat available, for $XXXX” ?

How does one say “I meant just a ~free~ seat without being THAT asshole?

Emma January 18, 2020 - 1:48 PM

Saving these tips for later. I’m always nervous to ask, but I guess if you don’t ask you’ll never get right?

Gabby Beckford January 19, 2020 - 3:16 PM

Exactly, Emma! Better to ask than not!

Renee January 18, 2020 - 12:05 PM

Great tips! I will definitely try some of them on my next long haul flight :p

Bob Wright July 14, 2022 - 2:10 AM

Yes Gabby, you are correct, being able to travel especially right after two years of “no go” lockdowns, feels absolutely fabulous. Since March, I have taken 5 international trips; this, after losing $5,000 in expiring RTW tickets, after two years. I do feel a sense of gratitude; and, even though I have been to over 65 countries as a tourist, I have yet to fly in a business class or first class seat. But, using your definition of upgrade, I realize now that I have often received upgrades, without noticing. For instance, a family with children or mother/daughter pair want to sit together, twice recently, I’ve ended up in the EXTRA leg room seat! At 6’2″, extra legroom is priceless. Great article!

Matt January 5, 2020 - 10:08 AM

This is so helpful!! Never in my life I got upgraded, which is normal
I guess. Once with Qatar I had th worst seat for 8 hours. I could’ve said something like you suggest. Next time I’ll give it a go. Yet, we are always two people travelling. I guess that makes an upgrade more unlikely. What do you think?


Gabby Beckford January 15, 2020 - 11:59 PM

Yes, I hope these tips help you! As 2 people it’s likely they’ll just upgrade the one with a reason, but if the flight is a bit more empty you may be able to argue for you both to be upgraded 🙂

Rebecca October 30, 2019 - 5:51 PM

Awesome tips! Certain to try on my next long distance flight

Gabby Beckford November 2, 2019 - 11:49 AM
Jade September 28, 2022 - 5:42 PM

OMG Gabby this totally worked for me!!! I was flying to Iceland for my birthday and the agent at the gate bumped up my seat by 13 rows!!! I even wore the “it’s my birthday shirt” too!!


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